Whatever the reason, we generate the meaning we need in the moment. In early interviews the client, a very withdrawn individual, discusses twenty-five different problems, in quite discrete fashion. There are no situations that make us feel bad - what makes us feel bad is how we perceive the situation. But …

His red compact car takes the full impact of the crash and veers into oncoming traffic. Hopefully, the decision will be made from a place of balance. She fought with her husband because he didn't seem to worry enough. When my two international class coordinators, Kimberly Schipke and Jessica Luibrand …

Usually, counseling is 26-weekly sessions, with a majority of those sessions at the client's home. Bromfield sounds prophetic when he foresees the time when his house would receive visitors as a state park: Perhaps one day it will belong to the state together with the hills, valleys and woods of …

One last difference between casual and habitual procrastinators is that casual procrastinators are often more apt to express remorse when they've inconvenienced someone than a habitual procrastinator would. I presented myself very professionally, as if I'd done this a thousand times. I breathed a prayer for faith and divine guidance …

The energy and attitude we bring into the world impact everyone we meet and are reflected back to us. Remember, what we think determines what we say and how we say it. There's something about knowing how much more there is to learn about that propels you into that area …

No matter how mundane the current task is (i.e., reaching for a glass, walking through a room) focus your mind totally on what you are doing in this moment. When a child faces difficulty, they are already dealing with adversity that may act as a steeling agent. Such perils …

So Kant entreats us to exercise tolerance for others by treating them as persons and not mere objects. Perhaps getting rid of or moving against kinds of thoughts? A friend of mine gave me a beautiful glass jar and a deck of flashcards and said, 'Anytime you think about him …

With positive psychology, you get the best tools to finally break new ground and enjoy life. A voice filled with excitement shows your enthusiasm and happiness about something. Historically, there has been a gulf between mainstream psychology, which was negative toward religion's role in one's mental well-being, and African-American pastors …

In this article we suggest that one important way people find meaning in their lives is by becoming deeply involved in activities that afford them scope. We are expected to turn even the most terrifying experiences and unfathomable losses into an opportunity for personal growth. They peak between age 10 …

Evidence is abundant that when breastfeeding is possible, it builds health and wellbeing. So far in this article, I've emphasized what you can control. I've always been struck by this particular phrase because, more commonly, great suffering brings great bitterness, great anger, great wish for revenge, and great hardening. You …

We can never anticipate fully what life has in store for us - all we can hope for is that when life hits us hard we have the mental resources available to help us grow from the experience and recognise the lesson. People who haven't played don't always realize how hard …

You are spending more money than you are bringing in each month. When we experience an unpleasant feeling, it is a common reaction to subconsciously push it aside, replacing it with a completely different feeling we do not even really need. You can get sick with infections, or you develop …

Next, I stop the recording, tell LENNY he can open his eyes, and then ask him a series of questions. In the executive program for the World Economic Forum's Young Global Leaders at the Kennedy School, such assignments led to outright protest. When she took them out, she looked around …

Steven credits his new self not to Lifton, his father, or even his sister, but to Moon himself. When you know yourself and make well-considered choices, your life works much better, with less drama, fewer wrong turns, and more satisfaction. Being willing to acknowledge something does not mean you like …

After repeating the better ways a number of times, they start to go unconscious again. It is one of the early experiments by Paolo Uccello using a new technique called perspective. She had to fight the urge to lie down right there on the powdery dirt path and curl her …

I lifted up my wine glass and actually felt like I might bloody hit her with it, I was that angry. Upon returning from my remarkable experience in La Rochelle, I enthusiastically change my training to focus on burning fat, not sugar. Two other perspectives place special emphasis on the …

After this actually happened, I worked with Victoria to think about what we could do in this scenario. Move toward natural breath, a feeling like lying on the earth and watching the clouds move through the sky. Anxiety is merely a persistent fear, and it extends to your future. Simon's …

Then a few hospitals paid lip service and started mentioning the very word. If someone tells you to keep it real, remember, you create what's real. And it may feel deflating as well as mysterious that the frankness so highly prized early on can come to be experienced as intrusive …

The life experiences you've had, and what you have done with them, have made you who you are. Your mind will quietly slow down and stop its normal chatter. Steve Johnson, a community organizer, told me how Portland, Oregon, came to be such a beacon for urban agriculture and sustainable …

The higher the anxiety in any system, the less tolerance people have for inclusiveness, complexity, and difference. Experiments are designed to examine the effects of one factor (here, hippocampal damage) while holding all other relevant factors constant (here, the age, education, IQ, skills, native language, socio-economic background of a comparison …

Remember that people see your actions, not your intentions, so regardless of whether or not it's your intention to put a barrier between other people and de-escalation, when you unrealistically demand that they feel any other way than they actually do, you are in fact adding to their obstacles rather …

This is the great difference between the psychedelic LSD and the analgesic ketamine, for example [a drug David is also working on]. Then, I was sentenced to twelve years in federal prison. This take much self-control and discipline, telling yourself no, when you have the urge or become tempted to …

If chronic pain from fibromyalgia or a car accident has been persisting for a long time, it's common to hear the pitfall thought pattern permanence as I'm never going to feel any better. Rather, people hoped for a glimpse of her, or a few moments in her presence, in order …

Now go walk up to your tree and touch it if you can. Consistent exercise, weight management, quitting or cutting back on the use of tobacco, nicotine, caffeine, and salt, and adding potassium by eating fruits and vegetables are just a few of the recommendations I normally suggest. Their aversion …

One cannot be callous, coldhearted or shut off from others' need. You just want to numb out anyway, and you end up using the booze as a crutch. I just happened to be in the middle when they attacked each other, or engaged in defensive maneuvers, and I was sorry …

The listener is correctly oriented to the noise source (possibly after an adjustment by the partner). The most effective way to win a vendor's loyalty is to use team talk when dealing with him. Stick the suncatchers in a nice spot in the garden. On the surface it doesn't seem …

In communication, individuals are not only expected to engage in an interchange but to be responsive to some degree to the words (and cues) that come from the other person. The reason your mouth and nose join into the same space and then branch off again at the voice box …

To answer that, you need to imagine yourself in your future, to dream a new dream for your tomorrow. Because all of those people have learned to hate their current bodies, and most have no idea that they can think differently. Or does it take an hour because of drive …

If you are here, then melt and merge in this beautiful communion which is incomparable in the sense that nowhere on the earth is anything similar happening. Making time for the thoughts to be expressed will help keep them from creeping in when it's time to relax. PAULINE: You know …

One or two steps might relate to the taxes, but no more. Evidence accumulates that roughage, especially food with a high cellulose content, mechanically massages the lining of the colon, thus reducing the likelihood of colonic and rectal cancer. When all your feelings are piling up, it can be cathartic …