This Is How It Feels

There was an ad on television that said you could be in a Porsche for $999/month. Similarly, they talked about how women could set their own agenda in the pursuit of happiness, something that had hitherto been the prerogative of men. Not surprisingly, I follow through on my plans …

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Quit Needing To Be In Control

Would this turn into yet another routine in which he would endlessly repeat the same exercises he had learned from Futch? Using a piece of fruit that every child is familiar with will allow them to call upon details that they have observed in the past. What kind of partner …

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Discovering Gold

You'll be shocked how many people will respect your request and how few people will need follow-up when you get back--especially if you've set up the support while you're away. Over time, as more and more of the pressure is laid on the individual, they begin to feel more and …

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Entering Silence

Gay and transgendered men often do not have the same familial supports to help them construct a caregiving team as they provide care for their partner or a friend. Listen passively to every last complaint, every last insult. The similarity between all of these traumas is that they leave a …

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Becoming A Thinking Partner To Others

From my perspective, therefore, the literal question - is butter back ? So even though it doesn't matter when they win or lose, everyone prefers winners. If you received thank you notes or accolades, save them for your records, and ask anyone willing to put a compliment in writing for you if …

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Getting Unstuck From Thoughts

In addition, I signed up with a health club near my home, intending to use their facilities and classes rather than to undertake a physical training regime, which is what most members of such clubs want. I think that moral philosophy is missing a basic shift of attitude here. Earlier …

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To Pay Or Not To Pay

In communication, individuals are not only expected to engage in an interchange but to be responsive to some degree to the words (and cues) that come from the other person. The reason your mouth and nose join into the same space and then branch off again at the voice box …

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Avoiding Cliches

To answer that, you need to imagine yourself in your future, to dream a new dream for your tomorrow. Because all of those people have learned to hate their current bodies, and most have no idea that they can think differently. Or does it take an hour because of drive …

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How Will I Cope If They Don't Like Me?

To have any hope of taking him out instead, you have to go in with that same singular focus. Life stories can also be shared without words, for example through creating collages, assembling photographs, or working with other art media. There are two words that best describe what we can …

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Standing Up For Congruity

Even Carol Dweck admits to slipping up once in a while, praising her family for brilliance rather than efforts, but the point is to create new habits that have the potential to communicate a sense of self-efficacy and an accurate representation of our children's abilities. You know when people are …

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Exercise Your Body

You need both the innate hardware (the cables, the computer), which comes from nature, and the acquired software, which comes from training. With time and diligence, you can change your schemas for the better. The realization that we can trust ourselves to do this is an essential part of the …

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When To Go All Out

The bacteria were paying close attention to the human endeavor, and our discovery of new generations of antibiotics propelled them to further adapt and evolve. While most claims help consumers to interpret technical information, many are easy to misinterpret, misunderstand or simply misread - and lead us to buy a product …

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The Brainy Benefits Of Exercise

Even if you disagree with the author's conclusions, can you understand where they're coming from? How often have you said, I must exercise more or I must stop getting so angry or Next week I will start relaxing, but you just keep putting it off, until you never actually do …

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Laughing Out Loud And Being Silly

But I'm also aware that today, each of us is projecting our own story upon its emerald surface: the story of easy parking and literary sightseeing (me), the story of an athletic warm-up to hearty fall lunch (John), and the story of innocence and an unjust reprimand (Hattie, who gets …

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Common Responses To Piety

This spell serves well when made into a monthly habit, spoken on the second or third day after the astronomical new moon (when the moon is in complete darkness). I don't blame either of you for just going through the motions the first time: I blame myself. Just because you …

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