No One Can Fix Me But Me

If everyone started blaming their less acceptable behavior on someone else there would be chaos, so it is safer to hang onto the illusion of singularity. They know the real you and therefore can be realistic problem-solving partners. Again, these symbolic exercises enlighten your mind, heart, and soul, leading you …

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Identify Yourself

Do Maximizers obtain better outcomes? Once you have identified your target event and learned what your responses to it were and are, now what do you do? You may choose not to give what you have been giving, or look deeper into yourself at the fear or upset that accompanies …

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Vacation Bribery

When you mimic their body language, you'll become someone who instantly becomes trustworthy, caring and magnetizing (the recipe for lifelong likeability!) Would you like to talk about it?" Here, the goal is the daughter's autonomous decision, one less likely to end in finger pointing and resentment. Billions of neurons (brain …

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Common Responses To Involvement

This is a possibility worth pursuing for what it might say about today. On the other hand, criticism after a rough landing was usually followed by an improvement on the next try. And the chocolate in the cupboard and the wine in your fridge are calling your name--Just take a …

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Like From A Whisper To A Scream

Taking time for ourselves is not selfish and is, quite frankly, a necessity, a necessity that enhances our ability to focus on the here and now. Allow yourself to look at your partner with love, and be willing to receive the love back. Every time Facebook makes a change to …

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Shield Your Power

SOMEONE ONCE ASKED ME, IS CELEBRATION ABOUT THE PAST, PRESENT, or future? For one day give your intellectual decision-making faculty a rest as you turn your life over to Spirit. To elicit shared goals, ask, What matters most to you in this? You do whatever works. I do hope you …

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Is It Time To See Fidelity Yet?

They have a tendency to use the person more rather than specifying and using the primary person where applicable. Think about the previous exercise we just described. ("Scatological," by the way, is a word that my ever-jesting boyfriend taught me specifically in preparation for this cleanse. I'm grateful that we …

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Common Responses To Noncomformity

This is my promise to you to ensure you have everything you need to be successful, even with something as hard as breaking away from sugar. He didn't want to visit another provider and be dependent on pills. Love, of course, is at the center of the meaningful life. No …

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Unpleasant Feelings

This will make them less likely to cave in to temptations and more likely to exercise their self-discipline. Rest can be found in how you eat, drink and recover from a late night. The glass would cut through my rubber gloves until my hands bled (I still have the scars …

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What We Neglect, Declines

So Kant entreats us to exercise tolerance for others by treating them as persons and not mere objects. Perhaps getting rid of or moving against kinds of thoughts? A friend of mine gave me a beautiful glass jar and a deck of flashcards and said, 'Anytime you think about him …

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The Art Of Helping

Or how wonderfully an inner sense of authenticity and safety frees us from the burdens of an identity built solely around conventional measures of 'success' or other people's power to judge, value or discount your existence. Children with ADHD often receive an inconsistent level of care from a fragmented system …

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Learn About Nutrition

Then draw a smaller circle inside of that first circle. Its critical role becomes apparent when you find yourself in an unexpected, stressful situation when it reins in your stress reactivity, regulates your emotions, and keeps your attention fixed on the task at hand. When does confronting your partner end …

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Be Kind To Yourself

From grade schools and hospitals to prisons and corporate offices--everywhere, really--the practice of mindfulness is spreading around the world in a great wave of healing. Alright then: Charles Foster Kane was born in Little Salem, Colorado, USA, in 1862. As I begin to consider my personal foundation, I think: Past …

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Always Consider The Source

With positive psychology, you get the best tools to finally break new ground and enjoy life. A voice filled with excitement shows your enthusiasm and happiness about something. Historically, there has been a gulf between mainstream psychology, which was negative toward religion's role in one's mental well-being, and African-American pastors …

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Is It Time To See Understanding Yet?

But the moral conflict inside caused her a great deal of distress. Rather, I'm thinking about all the questions the potential gift raises: Am I contributing clutter to a house that isn't mine? When we first met, his sensitivity had already reached a level that made it painful for him …

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The Courage To Have An Open Mind

High-intensity interval training (HIT) is surfacing as superior to steady-state aerobic training, even though it has a lower calorie-burn in comparison to traditional aerobic exercise. Increasing your connection could begin by striking up a conversation in the coffee queue, starting a meeting with a smile and a question, or sharing …

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You Just Take It For What It Is

Because it was carefully designed to be highly challenging, yet ultimately achievable, for each of these failure-prone kids. Knowing we must come crashing down, I escape from the car in mid-air. As the most crucial of all organs, if it is in trouble, the heart will fail to control the …

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Cultivate Docility

In this article we suggest that one important way people find meaning in their lives is by becoming deeply involved in activities that afford them scope. We are expected to turn even the most terrifying experiences and unfathomable losses into an opportunity for personal growth. They peak between age 10 …

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Reconnect To What You Are Awesome At -- Your Strengths

Although he said his mum had tried her best, and he now felt awfully guilty for having questioned her support, James survived that difficult time by pushing down his feelings of anger, sadness and fear, knowing his mother was probably too overwhelmed or unable to contain his big emotions. You'll …

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